Fri|April 24|Troubled Marriages: Socio-Legal Implications, A Discussion

Date: 24/04/2015
Time: 7.00pm
Venue: The Alternative Law Forum, 122/4, Infantry Road, Next to Balaji Art Gallery, Bangalore-560 001. Nearest Bus Stop: Sivaji Nagar Bus Stop.

In the backdrop of recent incidents of the Bangalore Techie case and the tragic suicide of the Delhi-AIIMS doctor, both cases of gay men married to straight women, we invite you to a discussion aimed at addressing the legal and social repercussions of such marriages.

A few points for discussion

-How can we understand and talk about the responsibilities gay men have related to marriage without only vilifying them?

-How seriously should we take” family and societal pressure” as reasons gay men “choose” or are “forced’ to marry? What cumulative psychological effects do these daily pressures have over time? How to manage/deal with/combat them?

-What are the laws that protect women? Are there laws that would enable both the man and the woman to come out of the situation in an amicable way? Does non-consummation/depriving the wife of sexual intimacy amount to cruelty?

– Who is the victim in the case of these marriages? The unknowing wife? The gay man? Is victimhood equally distributed, or can they both be victims of hetero-patriarchal society and yet one still be more responsible than the other?

-What are the Do’s n Don’ts for men in such marriages? Should they change their behavior? Tell their wives? Is it a case by case basis?

-Where are the voices of women in this conversation? Is there a way to bring women into the discussion, rather than discussing them passively as victims of male dominance (straight, gay, or otherwise)?

-Is a gay man married to a woman and having sex with other men on the side any different than a straight man who has sex with other women? If so, how? If not, why?

The event is open to all.